Rude people are the pits. You run into them everywhere, sometimes in a train station, sometimes in a coffee shop, sometimes within your closest circle, and sometimes, at work. Of course, they invariably make your fist itch to punch them, but I would suggest (gently) that you don’t. As infinitely satisfying as that punch might be within the first two seconds, I generally wouldn’t recommend it because:
a) A punch cannot be retracted.
b) Your fist will hurt.
c) If you’re punching someone at work, you can expect to be fired.
Now that we’ve established reasons not to get violent with people (even if some of them arguably deserve it), here are a few ways to deal with these irritants!
- Really figure if they’re really being rude or not.
This is most common through text or email. It’s very difficult to figure out a person’s intentions via text or email, because sometimes it’s just a matter of how they speak. Or, they could be really harried and busy and sending you something without adding their usual three smileys. Email or text rudeness is the easiest thing to let go, because you can always give the other person the benefit of the doubt. And really, to save yourself pain, try to assume the other person doesn’t mean you any harm. Your life goes on much smoother this way! HOWEVER, IF SOMEONE IS WRITING TO YOU IN CAPS LOCK, AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR SCREEN IS YELLING AT YOU, THEN WE CAN DEFINITELY CLASSIFY THAT AS RUDE. In this case, I always suggest telling the other person calmly that this isn’t the right way to speak. I also do not condone writing back a nastier email or text, because this is going to perpetuate a really negative cycle. Pick up the phone, call the person, and try to sort the issue out as calmly as possible!
- Understand the other person
As unfair as this is, sometimes the other person is having an awful day and taking out his or her shitty day on you. And yes, we all know that this isn’t the right thing to do. However, if someone is being terribly nasty to you in an extremely unwarranted fashion, you can figure this is really much more about him or her, than it is about you. It’s not personal. It doesn’t mean you should allow it or be a punching bag. I strongly recommend letting the other person know firmly that you will not tolerate such behaviour, but this doesn’t mean clawing the other person’s eyeballs out. Stay calm, state your message, be objective, and try to keep emotion out of it.
- Kill them with kindness
You probably feel like killing them, period. But, don’t. Two negatives, in this scenario, do not make a positive. I’m a firm believer in asking someone out for lunch or dinner and talking to them and talking out your issues. You don’t have to necessarily say, “I think you’re a rude pig and I want you to stop.” Instead, just get to know the person. Life gets better when more positivity is fostered. And sometimes, people need genuine kindness in their lives.
- DON’T bitch about them.
I’ve fallen into this trap a lot of times, and I regret it. I regret it because the more you bitch and complain about something, the more your mind gets wrapped up in negativity and anger. You’re not actually letting off steam, but you’re re-hashing and reliving a situation that turns you sour. Why give them so much importance in your life? Allow yourself to stew for five minutes, and then put them out of your mind. You’ve more important things to do with than these idiots! Like, read more posts from Little Slices!
- Stop dealing with them
This is pretty obvious, and easy to do if you’re not in a work environment. If there’s someone in your circle that annoys you to death, then for goodness sake get out of the line of fire. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you know you’re going to be aggravated. When you see a rude person coming, escape! Run the other way! Flee for your life!
- Focus on something YOU like to do!
The best way to get over something is to focus on something else. What better way than to focus on a hobby or activity that you like to do? Wasting all your brain cells on a nasty people is a surefire way to shorten your lifespan, and it sure as heck won’t give you any pleasure. Whereas if you spend your time and energy on something you like to do, you’ll be making yourself happier and at the same time, honing your craft!
How do you deal when you face rude people? Let us know in the comments section below, or on Facebook!